Sexy Christiana (Read Carefully)
I was just talking to the Lord because I've seen a lot happening relationship wise and needed to remind myself what God wants for me sexually. As a single woman it is important that I remind myself why I am not having sex. God showed me something new yesterday. He gave me revelation that sex is an act of worship. Outside of marriage sex is an act of worship to ourselves, but in the marriage context of two Christians it is an act of worship to God.
Single women and men, if we attempt sex without covenant it doesn't work. Firstly because in order to understand how our relationships are suppose to work we must go to the originator. Without God at the center of our understanding relationships are contorted into caricatures of what they should be. How can anyone say that they know the creation without ever referring to the creator and his inspiration? Secondly sex without marriage doesn't work because they were meant to be together and not apart. Sex is a consummation of a covenant. When we use what was meant to represent Christ and the church out of the context of covenant, meaning marriage, it turns what should be worship into idolatry of ourselves. We are saying that what we want from sex is more important than its purpose. In this instance our intimacy is outside of the blessed place that God meant for it to be. We are missing out big time! Sex is meant to be a blessing to men and women who take on the ministry of marriage and an act of worship to God who originated the relationship to represent Christ and his church.
I've had to get over the fact that so many good intentioned "church people" make sex out to be a bad thing. For years I thought that anyone who desired to be touched or loved on was disgusting and ungodly. That included myself, and I felt like something was wrong with me all the time. This created a duality in me and it eventually came out in the form of sexual immorality. I was fighting myself and I lost. After all of my fighting for purity and upright living I lost the battle and still felt like a total failure. Why was that? It was because I was rejecting a part of myself instead of acknowledging that part of myself and putting my sexuality in the proper context. When anything is out of purpose it becomes quite contentious to live with. I could not bring together the fact that I was God's temple and his church with the fact that my body was desiring sex badly. This isn't something that just hit me when I started menstruation, I was struggling with a strange desire to be touched when I was 5 years old. It's scary that the desire can surface so early, but it did for me. I was not abused, it just happened for me like that. So what's the proper way to deal with sex if you are single or married?
My only solution to sexual temptation, or lethargy in marriage, is to recognize that God said to get married and made us to fit together and enjoy each other. Every time two christian spouses have sex it is a representation of the intimacy between Christ and the church. Anything that we do which represents the God relationship in the proper context is pleasing to God. If we look at the concept that man represents Christ and woman represents the church in a marriage then a woman's body was made for her husband and a man's body was made to minister to his wife. This also flows into the concept that the man is the priest of his home. Ladies your husband is not the LORD, but he is your lord which means leader. I have concluded for myself that the Lord wants me to give my husband everything but my worship which exclusively belongs to God. In loving each other you are ministering to each other and therefore worshiping God. Sex was not meant to be selfish but self-less to the mutual pleasure of both parties and God. Sex inside of covenant is sacred and good. Can you imagine anything more pleasurable than God ordained and anointed intimacy? The only thing that I can imagine to be better would be going to heaven. Christianity is sexy and if you don't believe me than read your Bible. Read the whole Bible and don't skip anything. Also know that the only way to fully enjoy the sex experience is the first accept the covenant of Christianity and receive Jesus Christ as your Lord, savior, and primary spouse. Happy reading.
Single women and men, if we attempt sex without covenant it doesn't work. Firstly because in order to understand how our relationships are suppose to work we must go to the originator. Without God at the center of our understanding relationships are contorted into caricatures of what they should be. How can anyone say that they know the creation without ever referring to the creator and his inspiration? Secondly sex without marriage doesn't work because they were meant to be together and not apart. Sex is a consummation of a covenant. When we use what was meant to represent Christ and the church out of the context of covenant, meaning marriage, it turns what should be worship into idolatry of ourselves. We are saying that what we want from sex is more important than its purpose. In this instance our intimacy is outside of the blessed place that God meant for it to be. We are missing out big time! Sex is meant to be a blessing to men and women who take on the ministry of marriage and an act of worship to God who originated the relationship to represent Christ and his church.
I've had to get over the fact that so many good intentioned "church people" make sex out to be a bad thing. For years I thought that anyone who desired to be touched or loved on was disgusting and ungodly. That included myself, and I felt like something was wrong with me all the time. This created a duality in me and it eventually came out in the form of sexual immorality. I was fighting myself and I lost. After all of my fighting for purity and upright living I lost the battle and still felt like a total failure. Why was that? It was because I was rejecting a part of myself instead of acknowledging that part of myself and putting my sexuality in the proper context. When anything is out of purpose it becomes quite contentious to live with. I could not bring together the fact that I was God's temple and his church with the fact that my body was desiring sex badly. This isn't something that just hit me when I started menstruation, I was struggling with a strange desire to be touched when I was 5 years old. It's scary that the desire can surface so early, but it did for me. I was not abused, it just happened for me like that. So what's the proper way to deal with sex if you are single or married?
My only solution to sexual temptation, or lethargy in marriage, is to recognize that God said to get married and made us to fit together and enjoy each other. Every time two christian spouses have sex it is a representation of the intimacy between Christ and the church. Anything that we do which represents the God relationship in the proper context is pleasing to God. If we look at the concept that man represents Christ and woman represents the church in a marriage then a woman's body was made for her husband and a man's body was made to minister to his wife. This also flows into the concept that the man is the priest of his home. Ladies your husband is not the LORD, but he is your lord which means leader. I have concluded for myself that the Lord wants me to give my husband everything but my worship which exclusively belongs to God. In loving each other you are ministering to each other and therefore worshiping God. Sex was not meant to be selfish but self-less to the mutual pleasure of both parties and God. Sex inside of covenant is sacred and good. Can you imagine anything more pleasurable than God ordained and anointed intimacy? The only thing that I can imagine to be better would be going to heaven. Christianity is sexy and if you don't believe me than read your Bible. Read the whole Bible and don't skip anything. Also know that the only way to fully enjoy the sex experience is the first accept the covenant of Christianity and receive Jesus Christ as your Lord, savior, and primary spouse. Happy reading.
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