The Power of the Example

I was about through today when my son made himself sick in order to get my attention while he was in time out.  I call it the reset because he gets time to go to his room and lay down while he calms down.  The boy has got it cushy!!  Anyway after I took care of it, I told him that God wants us to control our tempers and that his temper tantroms weren't okay (even if they are normal).  I asked him if he wanted me to help him to do better, and he shook his head yes.  As I looked up scriptures to read to him, I realized that I needed that word just as much as him.  I thought about all the times he did things like throw down food or toys when he was angry, and then I thought about my own reactions.  Sometimes my reactions were good, but there was a significant amount of yelling and lack of forgiveness in those memories.  I realize now that my goal shouldn't be to fix my son but to give him a better example.  I don't have to yell to get a point across, and I don't have to toss him aside because "you did that on purpose!"  I took active parenting classes, but I didn't realize until now that they were trying to show adults how our emotional moments affect our children's ability to grow.  I wrote a covenant today, and while I was writing I thought of the covenant that God made with all of Israel.  It contained nothing of what they had to do and everything of what God would do for them.  I can't make my son promise me anything that isn't in his heart to do, but I can make a covenant from my own heart.  Here it is world.  You are my witness

Mommy's Covenant to You Son
1. I will not yell at you unless you are in danger or out of range
2. I will consider your perspective when I make decisions
3. I will control my feelings and I won't punish you in anger
4. I will always forgive you and ask forgiveness when I am wrong
5.I will speak only good things over your life and I will speak them often
6. I will work with you to discover who you are
7. I will work to love you better every day and not base it on how you act   
8. I will allow you to grow and not hold you back from becoming more 
9. I will teach you about Jesus and how to have a relationship with him
10. I will let you go when the time comes for it

Check out Hebrews 8 to see the amazing new covenant that the Lord made with his people.  Also check out this link to get more on motherhood
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