I Don't Know If I Am Making the Right Decision

Today my son's father came over to visit him. Every time he asks to come over I say yes, but I feel like something is going to go wrong. I fell in love with a schemer, and our ended relationship didn't end who he was. I feel like he is always trying to get something our of situations, like he is biding his time until he can get what he wants. He smiles, he compliments, he even apologizes and attempts to make things right until he has what he wants in his grasp. Most of the people around me said that I should do whatever it took to make sure that my son had his father, but they were looking at statistics not at my son and not at his father.
I want to believe that my son's father is growing up. I want to believe that he has seen that everything should be focused towards what is best for the baby. I want to believe that he has chosen to do what is right rather than whatever will make his parents happy and give him comfort. I want to believe all of these things, and I have given him room to prove it. He is putting on a good show, but every now and then I find out something or he does something that points to the fact that he is scheming. Am I putting myself and my family in danger by giving him a chance? Does my son really need him or am I just trying to be nice to someone who I hope will change in the light of mercy? I want my son to learn how to be a positive, responsible, and compassionate person, but I am worried that his father and family will attempt to go against everything that I teach my son just to undercut me. There is a high likelihood that they might undercut me without even knowing it. This is what happens when a couple is unequally yoked. His first birthday is coming and I don't know what to tell my son's dad. Why is it that no matter what decision I make concerning my son and his dad I feel like I am doing something wrong? Prayer is the only thing like I feel I am doing right. Prayer it is and prayer it will be. Lord make it right. Amen

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