What are the real reasons to get married?

I have been thinking about marriage since I was 5 years old.  At first I thought God made us girls to get married to some handsome boy and have a family.  Then in my teen years I thought "you get married so you won't have to be alone."  This one stuck for quite a while, but when I think about it I can't see how being alone is worse than being stuck with someone who makes you miserable.  Then for a while I changed the question to what are the advantages of being married?  Sex is the more obvious plus, but what about companionship, children, and increased chance of survival.  A lot of people with children get divorced now for lack of these in the marriage, but quite honestly there are plenty of people having children outside of marriage, plenty of people finding companionship in other ways, and plenty of people who have found a way to not only survive but thrive as single individuals.  Even Paul in the Bible said it would be better to remain single when he spoke of better serving the ministry.  No, those are not good enough reasons for getting married.  for a long time the question became "why should I get married at all?"  It seemed like women who looked like they had it all were really hiding their need for more out of their marriages.  Even the good men seemed to not know how to function in a marriage situation.  Guys were accidentally making their wives unhappy and women in return were reacting with contempt making their husbands angry.  No wonder the divorce rate is so high.  I thought  "It's a death sentence to anyone with any expectations at all!"  Then I thought "it's God's punishment to women," but that isn't exactly true.  God didn't give women to men to punish them.  God gave women to men so that they could help them in their pursuits.  So this is my latest thought on marriage.  Women get married in obedience to God.  I am taking this from the woman's perspective because I am a woman. It isn't about the guys and it isn't about us.  It is about working together for God's glory and in the process receiving satisfaction and a sense of fulfillment which can only come from God.  No matter who you marry they are going to have issues, and at some point they are going to need your help.  Does this detract from God's purpose for you as an individual? Absolutely not. God does all things well and in order.  When he tells us to do something he makes sure that we have everything we need to do the job.  We'll see how this thought works out when I get married.  I still don't have any prospects yet.   

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  1. C1FaithSeptember 1, 2012 at 9:55 PM

    I suppose I do have at least one prospect, but the Lord is going to have to counsel me into a better place.

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